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Faygie
settled the baby down for the night. She still had a ton of cooking for Succos
which was beginning the next evening. Before starting, though, she knew she
needed a short break. Pouring a nice, full glass of iced tea she collapsed on
the couch and pulled out her cellphone to check her messages. What a mistake!
I told Yochie I’d bring salmon puffs for an appetizer first lunch
but my phyllo dough went off. Any suggestions?
That
was from Perel.
I have a frozen gefilte fish loaf in the freezer I can bring and
you can make the salad I promised Yochie instead. Okay?
That
was from Mindy.
Faygie
felt a sinking feeling in her stomach. Three years ago it was just Yochie and
her. They were the only young Kollel wives who’d come to Sunnyvale to support
their husbands with their learning, teaching, and kiruv work. Quickly
they became fast friends. Then last year Rabbi Bornestein brought in three more
couples. Faygie and Yochie welcomed Perel, Mindy, and Sari wholeheartedly. Now,
Faygie was full of uncomfortable emotions. Was Yochie having a luncheon party
in her Sukkah without her?
Hesitating
for just a minute she began texting to Sari.
What are you doing first day lunch?
Going out. You?
Sari’s
answer had arrived in just a matter of seconds. Faygie’s eyes filled. She
really was being left out. What could Yochie have been thinking? Maybe, Faygie
sniffled, Yochie knew that the Borensteins had already invited them for lunch,
but still. Not to say anything.
Suddenly, she remembered the major temper tantrum her two-year-old had thrown
second day Rosh Hashanah at Yochie’s table. Is that why they hadn’t been
invited? Who did Yochie think she was to judge other people’s children? Hers
weren’t so perfect. Just think of the time her toddler had purposely spilled
juice all over Faygie’s tablecloth.
She
was still sitting on the couch, too upset to begin cooking, when Chaim came
home twenty minutes later. He listened patiently trying to understand Faygie’s
story between her sobs.
“Yochie
is a good friend,” he said. “Certainly there’s a perfect explanation for why
she didn’t invite us.”
“Like
what?”
“Not
enough room in the sukkah.” Chaim could be so irritatingly logical.
“So
why’d she invite all the others?” Faygie cried.
“Why
don’t you call her and ask her?”
“She’ll
think I’m being childish!” Faygie wailed.
Chaim
gave her a long look.
“I’m
not being childish! My feelings are hurt! Badly! And you don’t understand.”
With
that Faygie got up, stomped into the kitchen and began working. She enjoyed
cooking, though, and as she measured, mixed, pared, and baked she calmed down
enough to be nice to her husband. Right after washing her last dish of the
evening she collapsed in the easy chair and sent a message to Yochie.
Enjoy your meals in your sukkah.
She
didn’t have to wait long for a beep and return message.
You too! A smiley face
was added.
That
was it. No explanation or apologies for leaving Faygie out. So on Succos morning
after Faygie pushed the stroller with her two children into the shul she made
sure to talk animatedly to everyone except Yochie. When, from the corner of her
eye, she noticed her supposedly best friend coming toward her she hurried into
the bathroom. The following day she decided the baby needed a diaper change the
same moment Yochie wished her Gut Yom Tov. On Simchas Torah they
were hosting a large group of public high schoolers so Faygie didn’t need any
excuse for avoiding Yochie. All of the women were so busy they barely had time
to breathe.
It
continued. The friendship between Faygie and Yochie fell into shambles. There
was tension between all the Kollel wives. And then Chaim came home right before
Purim with a pensive air.
“I’ve been offered an interesting position,”
he told his wife. “A day school in Chicago wants a full-time teacher. The pay’s
good but it’s a lot of hours. There won’t be much time for learning. I’m not
sure I’m ready for that. What do you think?”
“I
think it’s a wonderful opportunity!” Faygie exclaimed.
“Really?
You used to be so enthusiastic about all the good work we’re doing here. You
said that made up for the lack of eruv, bakery, and restaurant.”
“Yes,”
Faygie agreed quickly. “But we’ve served our time in Sunnyvale. I’m ready for a
choice of schools, shuls, and more friends. Chicago here we come!”
Somewhere
in the background Faygie heard a hammer banging. She awoke disorientated and
feeling an overwhelming sadness. Looking around the living room she saw the box
of Succos decorations but nothing for Purim. Had she been dreaming? It had
seemed so real.
It
took a few minutes to orientate herself to reality. As soon as she felt she was
back in the present she pulled out her cell phone and dialed Yochie’s number.
“Hi
there,” Yochie answered enthusiastically. “How are your preparations going?”
“Okay,”
Faygie answered guardedly. “By you?”
“Fine,
right now I’m making your parve ice cream cake.” Yochie spoke up over the noise
of the food processor.
“For
your luncheon party?”
“Luncheon
party?”
“Yeah,”
Faygie took a deep breath. “I understand everyone, except us, is coming to you
for lunch first day Succos.”
“No,”
Yochie sounded puzzled. “We’re having Perel and Mindy.”
“How
about Sari?”
“No,”
Yochie repeated. “I didn’t invite her. I think the Lavies invited them, though.
Not sure...”
“What
about the phone messages?”
“The
phone messages? Oh, about the fish and salad. I don’t know why Perel sent that
to the Kollel list. It should have been
just between her and Mindy.”
Yochie
paused as she turned off the machine. “Wait
a minute! Did you think I’d invited everyone except you?”
“Yes,’
Faygie whispered, trying not to sniffle.
“I’d
never do that!” Yochie was adamant. “I don’t know whether to be insulted you
thought I’d do such a thing or pleased that you made the effort to call me.”
“Well,”
Faygie wiped at a tear running down her check. “You are having Perel and
Mindy.”
“Right,
I invited Perel last week and then yesterday Mindy told me she has an important
ENT appointment for the baby tomorrow afternoon and she’s worried about when
she’d be getting home and how she’d get everything ready so I told her to come,
too.”
“What’s
wrong with the baby?”
“They’re
worried about her hearing.”
“Oy,”
Faygie gasped. “I’m sorry. I didn’t know. Maybe I should invite them for second
day lunch.”
“It
might be helpful,” Yochie agreed.
“I’ll
text her right now.”
“Um,”
Yochie hesitated for just a moment. “Maybe you should just call her. She might
not see the message until after she’s put in a two-hour cooking marathon.”
“You’re
right,” Faygie agreed with a smile. “I’m so glad I called you.”
“Me
too!” Yochie responded wholeheartedly.
Before
they knew it the holidays were behind them and Mindy’s baby underwent surgery.
The operation was successful and the recovery made easier by the support of the
community, especially the Kollel wives.
Somehow
the pace of life didn’t slow down. There were the Chanukah retreat, the Goods
and Services Auction, the young couples’ Shabbaton, and the youth group trip.
It
was just before Purim when Chaim came home with a pensive air.
“I’ve
been offered an interesting position,” he told his wife. “A day school in
Chicago wants a full-time teacher. The pay’s good but it’s a lot of hours.
There won’t be much time for learning. I’m not sure I’m ready for that. What do
you think?”
Faygie’s
face had blanched hearing the words she’d remembered from her nightmare.
“We’re
doing a lot of good work here,” she answered slowly.
Chaim
nodded. “Maybe the time has come for a choice of shuls, schools, and more
friends, though.”
“Our
shul’s just fine, the school’s good, and I love my friends here.”
“You
want to stay?” Chaim asked.
“Do
you?” Faygie answered with a quivering voice.
“Yes!”
“Me
too!” As she answered her husband Faygie glanced at her cellphone resting on
the counter. Stuffing it into a drawer she resolved that from now on she’d be
in control of the phone. It would not control her or let her ruin any of her
precious friendships. How thankful she
was she’d woken up from that horrible dream.
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This was nicely done. Thanks.
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